Serendipity

Timing is everything I've come to learn. Being at the right place at the right time. The movie the vow talks about moments of impact. In a moments notice, how quickly our lives can change courses. “I have a theory too. My theory is about moments. My theory is that, these moments of impact, these flashes of high intensity that completely turn our lives upside down actually end up defining who we are. The thing is, each one of us is the  sum total of every moment that we’ve ever experienced, with all the people we’ve ever known. It is these moments that become our history, like our own personal greatest hits of memories that we play and replay in our mind, over and over again. A moment of total, physical, mental and every other kind of love.  So that is my theory, that these moments of impact define who we are. A moment of impact has potential for change, has ripple effects far beyond what we can predict.  Sending some particles crashing together making them closer than before, while sending others off into great ventures, ending where you never thought you’d find them. You see that’s the best thing of moments like these, you can’t, no matter how hard you try, control how they are going to effect you. You just got to let these colliding particles land where they may and wait until the next collision.”

I never expected him to come into my life as unexpected as he did. There was no denying there was something there that we couldn't deny. Something deeper than a physical attraction. Though we didn't work out the experience defined who I am today. Every now and again our lives collide and when they do the same feeling comes over me. Some call it serendipity because we find each other unexpectedly. But is it really? I don't know if I can really explain serendipity without making an excuse. I find myself justifying the possibility of us.

What I know: There's a history between us. He opened me to the idea of falling in love all over again. I get butterflies every time. The lesson was not worth the pain. Im aware of what not to do and that someday unexpected love will find me again. Maybe it's serendipity. Maybe it's a moment of impact. Whatever it is... I'm waiting for the next collision where life as you know it ceases to exist for that moment in time of pure bliss.

Dating

Dating

Have you ever been in a situation where you are dating and everything is exciting over text and phone, but all of a sudden in person things get awkward? I figured out the secret ladies! Have no expectations... And look at him as a friend. Remember if you are not in a relationship you can not ask him to treat you like a girlfriend. No expecting PDA, no charming prince to sweep you off your feet, don't expect it to be like the movies! Two examples here: take myself I dated this guy everything was going great he was the one making the plans we went to Vegas and bam he didn't hold my hand or kiss me in public. He was on his phone. Behind closed doors he was charming sweet the perfect guy. So what does this say several things but lets stick to one. I wasn't his girlfriend we are just friends trying the dating thing out. When you act like a girlfriend and expect him to act like your boyfriend it sends him off in this shut down mode because now it just got real suddenly it's moving fast and you scared him off. He no longer wants to date you because he's now confused and doesn't know what he wants. Similar thing happened to my friend Beth. I explained to her a guy will never think anything is wrong. In his head they think it went great. So your feeling miserable and he's great moving on with life. Woman we are our own worst enemy sometimes because we think too much. I took this as a lesson learned and I won't make that mistake again. Know your worth ladies and set the right expectations :)

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Saying Goodbye

We all have gone through it. Not willingly but rather by choice. Saying goodbye is always the hardest. Walking away is worse. But holding on is even worse. I've held on longer to things rather than accepting that it wasn't meant to be not because I wasn't ready to close that chapter in my life but rather I would be on an endless mission of finding someone to start over with.

Saying goodbye is the hardest thing to endure. To walk away and accept defeat. In your head you pictured the outcome differently. I read a quote once that basically says no matter how amazing and beautiful you are, it will never work out unless a guy is ready. At that point our instinct is to prove that we are the right one. When this happens walk away! You should never have to prove your worth to anyone! Either they know it or they don't. Would you want someone who thinks or just knows?

Here's the bottom line of dating: either your getting married or breaking up. All other options are your choice, but be prepared for the consequences of those choices. That's why people say it's always best to marry your best friend because it takes years to build that. Whether you agree or not is open to discussion. But the harsh reality is that saying goodbye is always the hardest, but as my childhood friend Rebecca says, one day we will laugh about this on your wedding when you finally meet the right one. I'm optimistic for a pessimistic and I can live with that. It's never easy but your not alone. :)